I was recently scrolling through some Instagram posts and I came across three consecutive self-improvement pages. The posts were generally related to your life, and how it's not good enough. I realized something after closing the app. There is an over abundance of stuff out there that beats us down into believing we aren't good enough.
I know how that sounds. I'm not encouraging anyone into complacency. I'm not discouraging people from making needed changes. I'm encouraging a breath.
Especially if you're a young parent—my goodness. You'll feel like you're messing up your kids for generations because of what you let them eat or how much TV they watch or whatever.
Ultimately when you read a blog or listen to a podcast by a self-proclaimed guru, it's okay to be skeptical. It's okay to measure up what they're saying against your daily life. See if the advice fits. See if it's realistic.
Also consider the source. Are they psycho? Really—are they one of those spastic people that believe everybody has a chance to be a billionaire if they follow all the steps? Consider. The. Source (if they tell you to start getting up at 4am to take cold showers, RUN).
There's too much of this stuff. And these people are marketing themselves. So their angle is to make you feel like everything you're doing is crap. That your life is in shambles. That you hate your job. Etc.
We're never good enough. Everything we do is never done the best way. We need to change. The money we make isn't good enough. Our house isn't big enough. Our car isn't cool enough. We're not respected enough. We suck at relationships. We're depressed. We're not good enough parents. We're not good at being a spouse.
The amount of toxicity that can go through your mind when you follow some of these motivational people is unreal.
I had to stop scrolling and back away from the page to recheck my gratitude points. That's a really nerdy way of saying that I keep track of the things in my life that I'm especially thankful for.
My family, their health, my health, my house, my job—the list goes on. It doesn't always mean your life is boring or complacent just because you're happy or comfortable with where things are right now.
Life will continue to usher in hard decisions. But damn… stop and smell the roses. And take a long drag.
You're not complacent. Your life isn't boring. You don't have to uproot everything because something didn't go your way. You're okay.
You can take your time to figure it out. In the mean time, go write down what you're thankful for. Go write down the good things.
Really, do it. Gratitude can go a long way in how you feel about circumstance.
Positive conversations create space for positive thoughts 😊
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